Dating/Domestic/Relationship Violence is when one person in an intimate relationship uses a pattern of controlling behavior against the other. These behaviors may include physical, emotional, sexual, economic or cultural abuse. Dating/Relationship violence occurs in both heterosexual and homosexual relationships and can be perpetrated by either males or females. Some examples of dating violence include: hitting, strangling, restraining, abandoning in an unsafe place, forcing, threatening harm, damaging property, possessiveness and forcing or attempting to force unwanted sexual acts. Relationship violence may continue even after a breakup or separation.
Sexual Violence is any type of sexual activity that a person does not agree to or does not give consent to. Sexual assault includes unwanted touching of a sexual nature, sexual intercourse without consent, rape or attempted rape, peeping for sexual pleasure, and indecent exposure. Sexual violence can be verbal, visual, or anything that forces a person to participate in unwanted sexual contact or attention. Examples of this are voyeurism (someone watches private sexual acts), exhibitionism (someone exposes him/herself in public), and sexual harassment (behaviors sexual in nature that create a hostile work/learning environment).
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Surviving Sexual Assault
Sexual assault can leave us with a wide range of difficult emotions. We may feel fear, shame, guilt, shock, anger, or helplessness. These feelings are normal, but we don’t have to go through them alone.
- Sex Abuse Treatment Center
Hotline: The Sex Abuse Treatment Center’s (SATC) 24-hour hotline is 524-7273.
SATC can offer support, care, and advocacy immediately following an assault. Counseling and support are also available for individuals who have experienced sexual assault in the past. Go to satchawaii.com for more information.
- RAINN: Rape, Abuse, Incest National Network: National Hotline: 800-656-HOPE
RAINN is the nation’s largest anti-sexual violence organization.
Behaviors or actions that are used to control, hurt, and intimidate a current or previous partner are considered unhealthy. This can include hitting, pushing, demeaning, threatening, stalking, not letting their partner spend time with others, or making their partner feel guilty for not doing something for them.
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Domestic Violence Action Center” – www.stoptheviolence.org
- The Domestic Violence Action Center’s (DVAC) free legal Helpline is 808-531-3771.
The Domestic Violence Action Center provides services to address domestic violence through legal representation for high-risk divorce, temporary restraining orders, and post-decree and paternity cases. DVAC also provides advocacy for survivors by assisting with navigating the system as she or he moves toward a life of safety and self-sufficiency. Temporary Restraining Orders – DVAC advocates are available at Family Court to assist individuals in the temporary restraining order process.
- Ho‘oikaika ‘Ohana
They serve Native Hawaiian families who have suffered the harm of domestic violence. Over a 9-month period, survivors, their keiki (children) and ‘ohana attend weekly group sessions. Together, they mend relationships through mo’olelo (talk story) and cultural practices, such as lei-making, planting and pounding kalo (taro), chanting, and dancing the hula.
- Hawai`i State Coalition Against Domestic Violence
They have a full list of resources for survivors.
- One Love Foundation
They educate young people about healthy and unhealthy relationships, empowering them to identify and avoid abuse and learn how to love better.
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